Hello again, beautiful people!
A quick update before I get into today's Sunday (but not Sunday) self-care blog: a couple of months ago I got rid of social media. Social media was a huge distraction for me; it would keep me from doing the tasks I set for myself. If you'd like to know more about my struggle, or why I decided getting rid of social media was the fix, read my blog: Social Media Isn't Really That Social. Since getting rid of it, I've had more motivation to spend time with the people I love, in person; as well as having the motivation to continue my work at school and in Andrew's Anthem!
I have been in Italy with my family and best friend for the past month-- a truly wonderful experience that I am eternally grateful for. However, now more than ever I notice how often people have outbursts of negative emotions at seemingly random times. I started to wonder why this happened so often. Where are we clashing too much? Was my family broken? Do I hate them? The questions racked up and I had no idea how to start addressing them.
There is no simple answer to this question as every family, and every person is different. What I started to notice was that my family had a lack of communication. This led us to keep our reactions to someone's actions or words to ourselves. Then, when something would set us off, we would ruin our day or at least a couple hours of the day.
To prevent this, I started writing down in my notebook ways to stop those pent up emotions. This, though, became difficult for me very quickly. I have a fear of confrontation, as many people do. Confronting people and telling them upfront about how I feel has never been my forte. I quickly realized that this fear was a wall that I put up to stop myself from seemingly "rash" decisions. In order to stop this wall, I knew that I would need to be outspoken so that I could be thoughtful when I spoke, as not to have an outburst again. By confronting people and truly telling them how what they did/said made me feel, I am allowing myself to think over what I need to do, with body language, and say in order to correctly portray what I desire for this person to understand.
Emotional confrontations, as I've chosen to call them, are situations where you allow your emotions to take the wheel and/or you are "confronting" someone about how you feel.
Taking time to think about your words is vital to this task. Letting your emotions take over is what triggers these outbursts. In order to be in control of yourself, you must set boundaries and have ways to relax in stressful situations, like these emotional confrontations.
Next week (maybe on a Sunday) I will be back with part 2. Continue looking out for it and for now, peace out you beautiful people!
Writing piece of the blog: Mary Oliver- The Journey
About the Author:
Gabriella is a striving Music Therapist and seeks out positivity for other people. With her life, she yearns to make the world better little by little and cause a “butterfly effect”. Her motto is “a smile makes someone's day better." One of Gabi's long term goals is to travel and learn different cultures while bringing her knowledge with her to make the lives of others better.